Are we really sexist—your thougts | Filed under General
I just read something and and thought it would be very interesting to get your thoughts on this…
“Men are taught to apologize for their weakness, women for their strength.” Lois Wyse
If this is is true then it could be said that men are taught to celebrate their strength and women their weakness.
And along that line of thinking all of us are hurt by this sexist conditiong. Men deprived of their right to be vulnerable cannot possible grow. Women denied power and strength become indispensble as a way to gain a sense of control over their lives.
We must all claim our strength and weakness without overcompensating on either side.
What are your thoughts on this subject, I would love to hear them, Come on talk back to me now. I know you have your opinions so don’t be shy. Give them to me. Share them here.
August 27th, 2006 at 9:21 pm
Interesting question. I never thought about it in those terms. For myself, I’ve always strived to be different, so that usual male “macho” stuff never bothered me.
However, I will freely admit to being a tad sexist in my dealings with women. Being I’m in a “service” type of role doing IT, I tend to respond more quickly to women I find attractive or I get along very well with. My male customers still get the same level of service when I assist them, but I might get to them a little more slowly.
However, working in a very diverse environment for the last 5 years (more than 50% women, many in very responsible positions) I’ve come to admire women with strength. To a certain extent, I find them easier to deal with.
August 27th, 2006 at 10:10 pm
I was in the Marines and that was a very sexist environment… but I also learned a great deal of strength there. But like any HUMAN, many things can take me down the path of fear and sadness. I appreciate any HUMAN who is not afraid to show emotion.:guitar::guitar:
August 27th, 2006 at 11:35 pm
One of the most “macho” men I’ve ever known was not ashamed to cry. However, one of the strongest women I knew, was ashamed when she did. We all have our strengths and weakness’; I’ve never been ashamed of either. I’m probably wrong, but that’s just me! Very good post Ms. Vickie.
August 28th, 2006 at 2:13 am
I think there is some truth to that statement but I also thing the times they are a-changin. I’ve sure done some crying over the last 13 months and I don’t feel at all apologetic about it.
August 28th, 2006 at 2:55 am
Dear Vickie ~~ Thank you so much for your very kind
comments and thoughts on my loss of a cousin. That was
very nice of you and is much appreciated. We have so many
caring and loving friends through our blogging and they are such a comfort to us. Thanks again, Vickie, Take care,
Love, Merle.
August 28th, 2006 at 5:51 am
I must be textbook; it’s easier to offer a hug than ask for one.
August 28th, 2006 at 7:57 am
I think it’s still true to some extent, but it’s changing. I was raised to apologize when I got angry which was wrong, it was how I expressed the anger that was wrong. Big difference…
I just replied to your comment in my comments. *snortle* Love ya!
August 28th, 2006 at 8:45 am
well miss vickie i just wrote a long comment but i forgot to write in my url and email and when i hit submit it would not accept it. when i hit the back space key my comments were lost, darn. i need to find a program that copies to the clip board as i type so i won’t loose any thing.
my oppinion on your post in a nut shell is do not appologize for who you are. men should not appogize for their weeknesses and if they are sad and start to shed tears then thats o.k. i think women like men that show their feelings and don’t try to hide them.
as far as the women are concerned they are the stronger of the sexes any way and they need not oppologize for their strengths. if the good LORD thought men were stronger then the men would be having the babies and not just making them. can i get an amen on that?
well have a great day miss vickie and i will talk with you soon.
August 28th, 2006 at 9:49 am
Damn straight YOU are SEXIST women - just a reminder of the slumber party!!!
We all have sexists thoughts - but do we act on them is the real question.
August 28th, 2006 at 10:02 am
If I lived life the way I was ‘taught’ I’d be a sorry specimen of a man. People know what they need to know, they just need the courage to live what they feel. And you know, most people do. Most of the strength I proclaim to have was honed from the lives of others - family, freinds, true heros. Like my daddy always said - you write your own ticket. Love you Vickie - give’m hell.:wave:
August 28th, 2006 at 12:21 pm
Hmm,did I share with you that the Force of Nature looked me IN THE EYE with her arms crossed and called me a sexist? She was tired of saying double standard I guess.
Good post, Vickie, but then duh, yours usually are, friend.
August 28th, 2006 at 6:38 pm
My dad–ex-military–taught me I could do anything I put my mind to, and believed women could do just as well as men in anything. He also said it took a real man to show his true emotions.
August 29th, 2006 at 12:36 pm
I could go on and on about this subject Vickie. I hate it that men are taught that it is weakness to show emotion and that they pass it on to their sons. I have told my son over and over that he should never be ashamed to cry. I see him constantly fight his emotions because if his father sees it then he will yell and call him names.
I, for one, refuse to ever apologize for being a strong willed woman and I never will. Some things are tolerated for the good of my son, but there is always a breaking point and my worst half knows when he has reached it. He also knows better than to push it further.
Hugsssssss gf!