Building Walls | Filed under General
The last several days I have been missing from the Porch because I just have not been feeling as perky as I like when I am visiting here on The Porch. Instead the light was left on for any visitors that might stop by and as always I was not disappointed. During my abscence, please my friends drop in and have a very good time in the comments, get to know each other…..the comments is not a place to just comment about the post for the day. Take time to get to know someone you have not met before, tease each other, have fun, be yourself and I know you so I know what that means with most of you. Now for a little pondering…..
It has been said, people are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges. Pretty powerful but very true……
We experience our soul when we really connect with life — when we stop and consciously experience what is happening.
We lose our soul with:
- resistance - to anyone or anything
- superficiality - we avoid depth of experience
- control - we try to control the relationship
- selfishness - we remain self-centered.
Each of these attitudes fosters separation rather than connection. Once again, soul lives in relating.
Take time to become aware how you relate to other people and things in your life.
“We have to decide for ourselves what’s nourishing to our souls, and do those things over others.” — Thomas Moore
Explore and deepen your feelings and thoughts. Go deeper and reach higher as you find what works in life for you. Live each day for tomorrow may not come. Enjoy life!
Life Is Simply Good even during my difficult times others have it more difficult and your thoughts are?
November 30th, 1999 at 12:00 am
Sorry to hear that you haven’t been at your brightest Vickie, sounds like you are picking up a bit now though?
May 7th, 2006 at 1:25 pm
Can we add one more to your list?
We lose our soul with:
-fear- the fear of getting hurt makes us stay closed off.
May 7th, 2006 at 1:26 pm
I’m so sorry you weren’t feeling well!
*hugs*
“It has been said, people are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”
So true, I am a wall builder, I try not to, but sometimes it’s hard.
May 7th, 2006 at 4:00 pm
You bring up some good points. I have found that sometimes a life experience can force you to rethink how you relate to daily life. They are not always for the better or what you wanted, but things happen that are beyond our control. You do have to learn to live with those changes.
May 7th, 2006 at 4:20 pm
This school of life called Earth is the most amazing place for us humans… we go through it all, don’t we? But it is meeting life’s ups and downs with a bit of courage and faith that sets us up for more strength when the next downer hits us. And in the in-between times, there are joys, laughter, family and friends to keep us aware that we cannot enjoy the light without a little darkness.
I hope this week finds you feeling better Miss V. I have kept the porch swept for you, did you notice?
May 7th, 2006 at 5:42 pm
I sure hope you start to feel better Ms. Vickie.
I have kept the refrigerator stocked with beverages !!
May 7th, 2006 at 7:12 pm
*takes a lovely iced tea (spiked of course);) from the newly stocked refrigerator (thx Dawn) and sits on the swing, noticing of course, the ‘you can eat off it, cleanliness of the newly swept floor (good work, Jude)*
Hope you are more cheered today.
A very thought provoking post Ms.Vickie, and so very true. I wonder if we could see the future, if we could see what time we had left on this earth~ if we would waste so much of it hiding behind walls? I try not to, because I don’t like being lonely and sometimes the only thing it takes to not be so, is a smile. Pretty easy, don’t you think?
*notices a cobweb that Jude missed but rather than brush it away~~ climbs up and places a small heart shaped leaf in it~~ just to see if anyone notices.*
May 7th, 2006 at 9:18 pm
if you are feeling bad then take a long needed rest and we will be around for you when you feel better. have a good day miss vickie.
May 8th, 2006 at 12:38 am
Hey girl, good to hear from you! strange thing when I click on you in my comment page I go to a Simple Country girl in Texas? I have had this hapen with others also strang!
Hope your feeling better!
May 8th, 2006 at 4:09 am
I tend to shut down and close off when relationships get out of my control. My soul and heart are stretched so thin these days that it seems to be the only way to keep from going over the edge so to speak. Getting hurt too many times has a way of building up walls. As much as I want to reach out… withdrawing seems safer?
Glad you are posting. It lets us know you are still making tea and lemonaide ;-). Hugsssssss
May 8th, 2006 at 4:32 am
Good days and bad. I surely understand. Sometimes it feels as if the bad are ganging up on you though - doesn’t it? I know your birthday’s coming up. Let’s hope those good days come back soon enough for you to enjoy the hell out of it!
May 8th, 2006 at 5:34 am
We build walls to protect ourselves from the unknown which only breeds fear and more fear.
I can understand building walls in order to heal but the longer those walls stay up the walls they only become a prison trapping who you really are inside.
When there is peace the walls must come down to let life resume.
May 8th, 2006 at 12:40 pm
Unfortunately I’ve found that bacon double cheeseburgers nourish my soul!
May 8th, 2006 at 12:53 pm
I hope you are feeling better now Vickie. Loneliness is something which I’ve only really encountered in the last couple of years, both on and offline. I’m lucky having my family close by, but even so, when you spend all evening on your own, and don’t even speak (apart from to yourself) for twelve hours or more - that’s loneliness.
May 8th, 2006 at 3:05 pm
I must say the comment about building more walls then bridges is interesting… gives a whole new light to the comment you hear people use “Build a bridge and get over it” well I always thoguth it was a unique jab to get one going but could mean so much more to some….
Hope you are feeling well soon V
May 8th, 2006 at 4:09 pm
I’m an eternal optimist…I can’t close myself off when a relationship ends because then I could be losing out on what was meant to be all along.
I’m hopeful…if not, I couldn’t get through a child’s deployment or my daughter’s asthma.
I’m faithful…and believe that not only will I meet the one who will be faithful to me but also that I will meet the One who is faithful to us all.
And I’m lucky…because you are my friend.
May 8th, 2006 at 4:40 pm
you are a sage
May 8th, 2006 at 5:21 pm
A very good post and a good addition by Tracey. I have been guilty of this, I am sorry to say.
May 8th, 2006 at 6:49 pm
You remind me to think of others often, which usually always puts life in perspective for me. I thank you for that and all you give me; laughter and a friendship that is more like a sisterhood. You are truly special and I adore you.
I have been guilty of building walls around my heart and it’s taken twice as much work to knock them down. It is my hope that I’ve learned my lesson but I still need reminders.
May 8th, 2006 at 8:29 pm
I hope you’re feeling better. I worry about ya!
There is some weird stuff going on with blogger, what, I don’t know.
Great post! I really needed to read that.
I too have built up huge walls around my heart and put armed guards to stand upon the walls.
Slowly, I’m tearing down those walls and venturing out, thanks to you. You, through youtr writing has encourage me to reveal different layers of myself. Thanks.
May 8th, 2006 at 11:13 pm
I hope you feel better very soon Vickie.
Walls around our soul are much easier to build than to tear down. Odd, isn’t it?
May 9th, 2006 at 3:12 am
I have noticed in blogland lately that there are so many people that have had a much tougher life than I. It makes me appreciate the blessings I have. And it makes my heart bleed that others should have to go through so much. And yet, I don’t see a lot of dispair in those blogs either.
I guess it just goes to show that God is good and He’ll take care of us in the end.
May 9th, 2006 at 4:10 pm
Life is short and we do not have much time to gladden the hearts of those who walk this way with us; so let us be swift to love and let us make haste to be kind.
~Henri Frederick Amiel~
Hope you’re feeling better…
May 9th, 2006 at 11:09 pm
I’m sorry also that you haven’t felt like posting. I haven’t either, but I think you’ve been whispering in my ear for several days now along with God. I’m glad, though, that I had not read this post until now - I might have changed my mind about mine for today, but that wouldn’t have been good because I needed to say what was on my mind. See? Friends sometimes have a connection of spirit and not know it for a few days. You take care of yourself, Ms. Vickie. I’ll be back to your porch soon. I want to make sure our Dawn is doing her job well replenishing the beverages!
May 10th, 2006 at 2:35 am
Hi Miss Vickie,
Just dropping by to catch up on what’s happening in your part of the world. Missin’ all of you, but life is going mostly wonderfully grand, so that makes up for it almost.
Big hugs and kisses,
May 26th, 2006 at 5:31 pm
Ms. Vickie -
It’s been a while since I’ve paid you a visit, but I think of you often. How gracious of you to encourage us to enjoy your Porch, whether you’re here or not.
Sending hugs and prayers your way.
June 2nd, 2006 at 12:18 am
Oh Vicki I hope you get to feeling better soon. Lots of hugs your way.