Friday’s Thoughts | Filed under General
Welcome to another day, no matter where you are, we all share in something today. May it find you living your life well and feeling the best you can but more important may you all help me in sending special greetings to my friend, Randy. on his special day. Yes, today is Randy or RD’s birthday and no I will not discuss how young he is. Enjoy this special day RD and may all your wishes come true. I have a feeling I know what they are and I share them with you…good health for Kerry, his beautiful wife and may they spend many more years together. Happy Birthday Randy.
I think it is time for me to return to my regular program here so live on Our Porch……
When you are interested in other perspectives, it doesn’t imply, even slightly, that you’re advocating them. I certainly wouldn’t choose a life with drugs or suggest it to anyone else. At the same time, however, it’s really not my place to judge it either. One of the cardinal rules of joyful living is that judging others takes a great deal of energy and, without exception, pulls you away from where you want to be. Today I admire and respect, my friend, Walker for his strong desire to educate and wake people up about drugs. He has taken a tremendous amount of flak from others about his post but he knows it was worth it and his friends stand by him no matter what. It is like the different types of post I have done here, I knew I would never be seen the same as I was before but I also thought my friends would support me. I am sorry to say, I know personally of two blogrolls that I no longer hold a place on. Yes two people and maybe others chose to remove me from their blogroll based upon that post.
We are all unique individuals who make blogland what it is, but what I find so fascinating is just how hypocritical people are. Because I am open and showing more of the person I am, I am no longer welcome on their blogroll but others guilty of the same and more hold that prominent place. In some cases it might be a gender issue which raises the issue do we have two sets of standards for writing. One for males and one for females, I don’t think so not the way I view things but then my way of thinking is what got me here today…..open and honest, sharing a little more of who I am…..a married lady full of passion who dreams and shared it here….never indicating when it took place.
Sometime ago I said I would begin to share more and more about myself and who I am here. I even talked about the layers of the onion and peeling them away…well I have peeled a few layers away. One of my favorite friends, Bubba said I might should be a chocolate cake instead or possible a gem with many facets. He thinks just maybe a diamond for every time he reads my post he sees another shining of my heart. You asked me to stick with being me, because you like me and I am a whole person to you. No layers just me….Thank you Bubba, my friend, I will be myself.
In being myself, I will continue to visit the blog of those who removed me as I did in the past. I enjoyed reading them, their choice hurt me but I understand each one of us makes decisions we feel are right for us. This decision feels right for me as I am still Ms. Vickie, the Southern Belle.
And your thoughts are?
April 21st, 2006 at 6:33 am
I like the diamond analogy. We each have dozens of unique and spectacular facets.
I’m thinking about you, wishing you well.
April 21st, 2006 at 6:40 am
hello miss vickie. i like your style miss vickie. just keep telling it the way you feel it. it is your blog after all. your writing reminds me of my favorite quote by admiral david farragut during the battle of mobile bay , damn the torpedoes ! full speed ahead!
April 21st, 2006 at 6:48 am
I guess it comes down to who you welcome into your home and who throws you out of theirs.
Some people prefer to turn a blind eye to what they don’t approve of and shun away from any reminder of their prejudices, believing that it will all go away.
Some people should stop running and embrace reality before it bites them.
You have expressed your true being on your pages.
Your desires and passion, but have shown your faith and beliefs as well.
If you are being shunned for that, it leaves me to ask myself, why do you want them here?
They dont deserve to be here.
If your friends cannot accept you for the person you are, then they were never your friends.
I want to see the whole Vickie, so open the doors and windows and let her out.
Its all about you.
April 21st, 2006 at 7:41 am
You are who you are and I like the way you are. Does that make sense? I hope you will continue just as you have been doing. Don’t make any changes unless YOU want to make them.
April 21st, 2006 at 10:05 am
Just be honest and let the chips fall where they may, that’s my motto. Happy birthday to your friend.
TGIF.
April 21st, 2006 at 12:57 pm
Ah,Ms.Vickie, there is a fine line between one being critical of another and one having the decorum to state an opinion that differs but doesn’t judge. I think perhaps the ones who have deleted you from their blogroll haven’t quite mastered that yet.
You are only writing what a ‘true blog’ should be anyway….for a person to express themselves in any way they choose…you will never be true to yourself if you have to write what others percieve of who you are.
Happy Birthday to your friend Randy (RD)
April 21st, 2006 at 1:49 pm
I would never want you to be anyone other than who you are. Shame on the deleters, but you don’t need them anyway even though as you said, you’ll continue to read their blogs.
So glad you posted; I have really missed you this week! Many hugs.
April 21st, 2006 at 2:30 pm
It’s not fair to be judged so harshly, it’s their loss and a shame. I don’t have to tell you how special you are; all your layers.
Bubba is a great man and I’ve enjoyed reading him since you suggested it. You haven’t steared me wrong yet.
Have a wonderful day, my friend. Rest up for tomorrow night
April 21st, 2006 at 2:30 pm
Happy birthday to me,
Happy birthday to me…
54 and counting…
Vickie, you’re chocolate cake for me today. Go wherever you want to go with that…Ha!
April 21st, 2006 at 4:02 pm
I don’t know if you are chocolate or a diamond, but I do enjoy the discovery process.
April 21st, 2006 at 4:44 pm
It is sad when people put you in a box and won’t let you out of it. Vickie, you are a beautiful person inside and out and you are human and the ones casting aspersions or doubts need to make sure their own slates are clean.
I love you for YOU and YOU are the reason behind many blessings coming into my life today.
THANK YOU FOR BEING MY FRIEND…I am HONORED.
April 21st, 2006 at 5:45 pm
Trying to do a lot of catching up. Between vacation, catching up from vacation, training to cover someone out on medical leave, and my own stupid accident…I just haven’t had enough time in the day. But I know you of all people understand. Those two that took you off their list weren’t real friends. If they were, they would have supported you no matter what you blogged about. Because your blog is an extention of who you are and it is a part of you. We all write about what we enjoy, our passions, our desires, our nightmares, our demons, and everything and anything between. It can’t be all good all the time and it can’t be all bad all the time. You write how you feel and you write from the heart. You are an incredible person. Two people lost is just that much more gained in the future.
April 21st, 2006 at 6:32 pm
Vickie.
It’s their lose. Never let anyone censor you, and always be true to yourself.
Happy B-Day RD!
Hugs,
April 21st, 2006 at 9:10 pm
I think it is terrible that people deleted you because of a post. As you said, you have many layers. That was just one layer.
I like you the way you are. Just keep writing !!
*HUGS*
April 21st, 2006 at 10:11 pm
I have many, many friends whom I love dearly and have nothing but the utmost respect for.
Out of that number, there are a handful with whom I’ve either experienced a sexual relationship, or I’ve desired to have one.
The great bulk of them I love, but not “that way”. I would be uncomfortable with the great bulk of my friends describing to me the details of how they last masturbated.
We all have the layer you wrote of. I don’t write of it publicly, and it’s not because I’m afraid or because I’m denying my sexuality, for me its a matter of respect for an aspect of my life that I consider sacred. That aspect of my life is enhanced for both me and my partner by keeping it private.
I am not one of the people who deleted you from their blogroll, but I suggest it may be more because they don’t love you “that way” than because they are hypocrites.
Just because someone doesn’t love you “that way” doesn’t mean they don’t love you.
April 22nd, 2006 at 2:02 am
Vickie, the important thing here is that you know who you are, and your friends know who you are. You didn’t write that to be crude or offensive, you were just sharing a part of yourself.
It is your business what you decide to share here, and if some find it offensive, that is their problem.
I like you just the way you are.
Real. Human. And honest.
April 22nd, 2006 at 2:49 am
You do seem to be feeling better these days - and that’s just great. I know the last couple of months have been hard; so if you are happy - I think thats absolutely marvelous. And as for that post; well - honey, this is your blog. You can post anything you damn well please. You wanted to share that. Anyone who didn’t want to read it didn’t have to. As for me - you didn’t shock me. You should read some of the passages in my novel (a romance/thriller). Don’t sweat it, my dear. I hit the half century mark on Monday; and believe me when I say that I have seen many things these last 50 years. And I am not one of the people who were freaked out by Janet Jacksons tit.