Monday Mojo getting your groove back with a little sexual confidence | Filed under General
Come on in, grab a seat and get comfortable, It’s Monday, and the new week has just begun . I hope that your week turns out to be a great one, and that you enjoy it as much as you can. “Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other person and then for ourselves”, was once said by Helen Keller someone I admire very much.
So today, Mojo Monday you are going to see another layer of the onion peel back as we talk about something so important to each of us—passion. Okay are you getting just a tad warm well maybe this will help you some.
Have you ever stopped to think about what we do to ourselves when it comes to thinking about our sexual confidence? Catherine Zeta-Jones’s take-no-prisoners oomph. George Clooney’s let’s-do-it eyes. Hugh Grant’s crooked smile. Halle Berry’s everything. Okay then just who do you want to measure up to? It’s exhausting to think that we have to measure up to all that exceptional, multi-magnified sex appeal. All of it is so inaccessible, so expensive and so impossible.
Any sensible woman would conclude that we might as well pull up our faded comforter, grab some chocolate, and give up the idea of anybody ever finding us irresistible. Instead, how about trying to get the groove back on for size:
Be Yourself: Irresistible.
Consider that being irresistible is more a matter of interest and appetite than of anything else. You can forget about becoming everyone’s physical ideal. Everyone has their preferences, their weaknesses and even their hang-ups (even I do). There’s nothing you can do about that. If he’s mad for tall blondes and you’re a short brunette, don’t rush out for Clairol and three-inch heels. There’s a better way. And forget about miniskirts (unless they look not only good but effortless on you). Irresistible is something else. It transcends the physical, it plays fast and loose with the psychological, and it makes the world a bigger, more entertaining, more filled-with-possibilities place.
Own Your Appetites.
And then there’s appetite: The thing women are not supposed to have. We can fake blonde. We can fake tan. We can even fake sexy—for a while. What we can’t fake is the real and unmistakable scent and feel of someone who actually likes…sex. Who would you rather have dinner with: the flour-fearing vegan or the happy omnivore who looks on dessert as a special occasion, not a torment? So it is with sex. Shame, guilt and aversion are not attractive to most people. Confidence and an adult appreciation of pleasure—and of the amazing human machine, which despite imperfections and wear and tear, can do such a glorious job of delivering it—is appealing. People who know that and show that they do are simply irresistible.
Let Your Warmth Shine Through.
The heart of sexual energy is making others feel beautiful, wanted, clever, charming, making them see themselves in the warm, pink light of our unembarrassed attention and allowing some of the flattering light to fall on ourselves, our strong points and our frank interest. It isn’t the tenacious, almost hostile, approach of the lonely man or woman who is only a step away from turning on us if we disappoint. It isn’t breaking up marriages or insulting one’s spouse. It is embracing the world and the people in it; it is embracing desire and attraction as sources of pleasure rather than shame, and appreciating what we have to offer as well as what they, the lucky objects of our desire.
Do we have the sexual heat turned up just a little, can you feel the heat? Karen this is not what you expected to see here today after our chat last night but I decided to take it from a very different perspective. After all I am Sweet N Sassy but in my research I have found out Shy N Sassy go a very long way. Be a little shy, tease a little and get your sexual energy going, before you know it you will have your sexual confidence build up. Next time we meet for another Mojo roundup here we just might talk about How to build your sexual confidence.
This topic was brought to you at the request of Karen the lady with all the answers….oh by the way this is all research. Now what is on your mind? Talk back, I know you have your thoughts and opinions and are all ready to share them so don’t be shy. Is there anyone else who would like to suggest a topic for the next post here or ask me a question? Go for it now is your chance and it might not last long so take advantage of it.
January 30th, 2006 at 4:21 pm
I used to think I was Shy N Sassy - these days I find myself being Shy N Sexay!!!
My question to you for today, has IT happened yet? If not, it’s for the best. That’s my opinion, now I welcome yours.
Love N Hugs.
Ms. Sally, You my friend shy, no way but Sweet N Sexy now yeah that is all about you.
The answer for your question today is YES it has happened and it is just a little different but still brings the extra twinkile to my eye and the heart beats a little fast…..well you get the picture.
Thank you for being such a special friend.
January 30th, 2006 at 5:49 pm
OH SURE blame me! ROFL I really liked this post and am glad you went this way instead of the silly things we talked about.
Each point is very true, and it goes the same for men. I like a man to be himself and be comfortable with that. The teasing (serious teasing) goes a long way and gets the juices *snicker* flowing, the sexy looks with his eyes, the certain smile and you know what he’s thinking about.
Sexy isn’t about how a person looks either, it comes from the inside. Sexiness oozes from every pore and is linked to personality more than the body. Lordy… here I go getting all hot again. Whew…
I don’t have all the answers, but a lot of book learning that I need to put into practice. LOL
How about find out what truly turns a man on. What makes him first notice a woman and makes him want to keep talking to her?
Love & hugs!
Well did you think I was going to take the blame for this post….well maybe I’ll say I’ve got the experience. ROFL.
By now you should know I am all about a little teasing, pulling in ever so slow and then…..well you know if not I better talk to you some more GF.
The book experience leaves you lacking something so you better get that experience factor in there and there is no time like the present.
You put right out here, wonder if we will have any takers. If not just remember sometimes be a little asserative…but not aggressive and you just might find out even more than you bargained for.
January 30th, 2006 at 6:00 pm
I need to try my new cologne out on Karen and see how it works.
For me the eyes lure me in. They may be the third [or fourth] thing I look at but they tell the story.
And of course if you read my blog “that thing with a lollypop”.
Now about that cologne, think I might stand back and watch the action…I mean I guess I might want to be a voyeur.NOT Just give me ACTION
I go for the eyes and boy to they tell me a story and you know what I just saw in you eyes? Oh we better discuss that another time right after you tell all about the “lollypop”.
Oh watch it Karen, GB is on the prowl.
January 30th, 2006 at 6:01 pm
Very nice post and something good to read before I go out on my date on Saturday.
Not necessarily for the sex part but about being yourself–very important.
Teresa, Thank you and you have it…The Groove that is. Enjoy Saturday and start out by just being ths kind and special lady you are.
January 30th, 2006 at 6:37 pm
Wow.
I like.
Wow.
I’m speechless.
Did I say wow?
Wow.
Slow down now Monica, relax you have the Groove
BTW, Tell Brian you have now been educated and voted Yes you have it
January 30th, 2006 at 6:39 pm
WOW. Shy and Sassy… I like that one. Great post dearest. And it’s really what has helped me to grow over this last year. Just opening up and being myself. Some call it flirting what I do, but I prefer to think I’m just being me.
Hugs, love and prayers always.
Keep smilin’
Thanks Joe, I understand what you are saying about the flirting as I have been told many times I was flirting and I was just being myself and naive. In the end being myself is always best no matter how difficult it might be.
Sending you some extra hugs and love. I know recently things have not been easy for you but baby steps and move ahead.
January 30th, 2006 at 6:51 pm
Okay I am 10 different shades of red. Should a man really respond to this one LOL.
Hey, I am from the school that what is good for the gander is good for the goose. Why should women not be as passionate as men and enjoy sex as good as men?
David, David, David…so you blush? I forgot to say that can be very attractive and YOU are so right why can we not be as passionate. Right here is a good place for me to say when I was about to marry I chose one of the oldest Gyn physicians so I would not be embaressed when I went to see him….well imagine what happened when after the exam he set me down and said. honey times are not like they use to be so if you want to make love to your husband, just grab him by the penis and pull him down on the kitchen floor.
So yes David in 1978 a 63 year old physician set a young shy 21 year old straight and I have never forgot that…that is why I have the Groove. :lol
January 30th, 2006 at 8:08 pm
hehehe…you know what I’m thinking.
I use to be a sexual dynamo. USE TO BE.
Then I met Eskalith and I might as well go out and buy a nun’s habit.
*sniff*
Part of me is ok with this change. Part of me isn’t. Because now when I do get intimate, I feel so self-conscious and it is really hard for me to get “into” it.
ROFL, Yes Mel when we recently talked and you were discussing the changes I was thinking…OMG, this can not be true. Just remember you have not changed you are the same person you ever was. Please remember a few things a special person always said and just how you always felt knowing that. Being intimate, being sexy is not all about the sex. Listen up and get your groove back.:lol:
January 31st, 2006 at 1:04 am
Very nice post Ms Vickie. The phyiscal body attracts, the feelings holds. But the mind is the glue for two.
Bubba, You get it…now are you ready to teach a lesson or two right here..lol
January 31st, 2006 at 3:17 am
Ah yes, I’ve got THE GROOVE, baby!
Well okay, I know I used to, and although my groove hasn’t been used as much of late, it’s still there, I just know it is….it’s a part of me! I’ve always thought to hell with ladies not supposed to enjoy the act as much as men. What bulltweed is that? God gave us this delight to share with a loving partner so to me it’s a gift to use.
I know you didn’t ask what turns women on and keeps them interested, but I have a feeling it’s pretty much the same as it is for men. It’s all INSIDE… it’s the attitude and the fun we display about it. And of course the smiles, the eyes and the body language show all of that, right?
Oh Miss Vickie I DO love it when you peel away those layers, girl. *wink*
Oh Jude You have it —and not only do you have it, you understand it—now just use it
Let me see I might could help with that one….yeah One Hippy Chcik with the Groove—she ’s got it, she knows it just a little underused right now—looking for appropriate candiates to share the Groove with—- *teasing*
So glad you brought that point up, I know in a man I like self confidence but not cocky, one who knows how to have fun and enjoys it, lets himself enjoy life, his partner, loves to touch, his eyes, his smile speak for him…yes the body language add in a little touching and caressing and he has me
About peeling back those layers well I got to get ready for those nekkid pictures Bob keeps asking for. After seeing all the pictures of the HOOTERS he has then I think I’m a sure in over there….
January 31st, 2006 at 4:23 am
Wow…great post ms vickie. I find that as i get a little bit older (not in my 20s anymore), i am feeling more confident in my own skin. I am more secure with my passions and hobbies in life and with who i am. This type of sureness is great to find in matters of passion. If only back in college I knew what I knew now.
Nothing is sexier on a person than self-confidence.
Great post!
I knew I liked your Style G-Man, interested an older lady—-we got a few running around here who have it. * teasing and batting eyes all the time smiling I got the groove*
You are so right, when we become full of passion in just who we are and life in general we become very self-confident and sexy.
Thanks for always visiting and commenting just remember the back door is always open so no more coming in the front door.
January 31st, 2006 at 6:50 am
Nice post, you pretty much said it all there little lady. Well done.
Cheers!
Thanks Ben coming from one of my very first blogging buds it means a lot to me. Welcome to the new place and visit again but next time would you bring us some of the beer you keep on hand for Friday’s?
January 31st, 2006 at 1:51 pm
Now Ms Vickie. How do you think my wife is 16 years my junior? Yep. She is sexy.
You do really get it Bubba—age is just that a number. May there be many more years of the wonderful love and passion for you and your special wife.
Hmmm let me see now me younger him older does not seem to work so well so is it time for me ollder him younger?
* just a little pondering*
January 31st, 2006 at 2:53 pm
Self confidence is the most attractive thing around!
Poop, You get it–The Groove is on
January 31st, 2006 at 6:06 pm
I’m too shy to comment on your post; just dropped by to say hi and I hope you are feeling better these days, Vickie.
Thank you Ms. Ellen, I’ve always heard it’s the shy one’s we have to watch.
So glad you dropped by and I hope you are doing o’kay, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Hope things are much better for you special lady.
February 1st, 2006 at 5:00 pm
I’ve been a little AWOL with my reading of late…time has been escaping me. But what a great post to come back to and I have to agree with it 150%.
Strength and a wee bit of mystery are some of the most powerful qualities one can have.
Hope you are feeling well…will be back soon. =)
Thanks Sue, and AWOL from reading blogs is great when good things is going on in the real world—may this continue to be the case for you.
No doubt you not only know the Groove you have the Groove.
Thanks for the thoughts and wishes…Hope it is o’kay that your link is being added so I will not be losing my way to your place and can keep up with you and your Groove.
February 1st, 2006 at 10:38 pm
What an intriguiging post! I’ve been there and done that and then haven’t done that in a while and could see the difference. I think you’re right. To build up confidence in that matter also builds it up in other ways. You feel not only sexier about yourself, but smarter and healthier too. There is much to this conversation. I hope you continue it along