Unconditional Love | Filed under General
Thanks for being here another day as we begin this week, may this be a special one in your life. Make the very best of this week no matter where you are and no matter what might be going on . I am certain you will have many opportunities to contribute to the world during this coming week , please do so.
Today I am talking about something very important to me and something I do which leads to pain and heartache. I’m talking about my ability to love unconditionally. To me this is very important and I am certain it is with most people yet so few do this. The term unconditional love is common place in our world, but what does it really mean? Simply, without condition. To love without condition means giving yourself, and the significant others in your life, the freedom to be who and how they want to be. This is one of the biggest challenges in understanding relationships, but really living unconditional love and acceptance will deliver the greatest joys possible.
I often say that the purpose of relationship is not to find another who will complete you, but rather to find another with whom you can share your completeness. If you feel complete within yourself, you can then share yourself fully and love unconditionally.
If you are complete within yourself, then you don’t need another to be happy. You can be happy in or out of relationship and from this place, you are truly able to love. Unconditional love is when you can love another for who they are choosing to be, knowing you don’t need anything from them to be happy.
If you are complete within yourself, then you don’t expect another to be any other way than the way they are choosing to be. Unconditional love is accepting another for exactly who they are, not forcing the person to change to meet your expectations of how they should be. It is about giving a person the freedom to be exactly who they want to be by allowing, supporting and enabling them in every way you can.
Unconditional Love, Love without condition , I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world, or the way you feel that is right for you. It is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you should be.
I realize that I cannot know what is best for you although perhaps sometimes I think I do. I’ve not been where you have been, viewing life from that angle you have, I do not know what you have chosen to learn, how you have chosen to learn it, with whom, or in what time period. I have not walked life looking through your eyes, so how can I know what you need.
I allow you to be in the world without a thought or word of judgment from me about the deeds you undertake. I see no error in the things you say and do, in this place where I am. I see that there are many ways to perceive and experience the different facets of our world. I allow without reservation the choices you make in each moment.
I make no judgment of this for if I were to deny your right to evolution, then I would deny that right to myself and all others. To those who would choose a way I cannot walk, whilst I may not choose to add my power and my energy to this way, I will never deny you the gift of love that God has bestowed within me for all creation, as I love you so I shall be loved; as I sow, so I shall reap.
I allow you the universal right of free will to walk your own path, creating steps or to sit a while if that is what is right for you. I will make no judgment of these steps, whether they are large or small, nor light or heavy or that they lead up or down, for this is just my viewpoint. I see you do nothing and might judge it to be unworthy. And yet, it may be that you bring great healing as you stand blessed
If you are complete within yourself, then you are not jealous of what another may have or be doing. You will understand that whatever is occurring for them is their stuff, and what is showing up for you is perfect for you at this moment in time. Unconditional love knows that jealousy (besides not being a pretty look) is a pointless emotion. If you know you don’t need anything outside of yourself to be truly happy, being jealous is simply avoiding looking within to find the love that lies within yourself.
To be able to unconditionally love another, you must first unconditionally love yourself. This means to be true to yourself - to know, understand and love who you truly are. The next step is to allow, support and enable your partner to be true to himself or herself - for them to know, understand and love who they truly are. This is both the beauty and challenge of relationships. A powerful tool to keep handy in learning how to love unconditionally is to ask the question “What would love do now?” “How would love respond to this situation?” “What would love say now?”
It is when we are complete within ourselves, and we love from this place, that the true beauty and joy of relationship is revealed. Try it this week and see how it goes. You may just find that you are more apt to understand the dynamics between you and your significant other.
I love unconditionally when I love do you? So many times love hurts, so many times walls are built for protection, so many times many miss love because they hide behind the walls afraid of pain. Sometimes people open a door in the wall and wait. What do you do with love? Talk to me and share. I know you would like to. Life Is Simply Good.
August 22nd, 2005 at 4:32 pm
This is a great post, Vickie. I do love myself… that way, I can love others unconditional !!
August 22nd, 2005 at 5:00 pm
Great post, Victoria. I totally agree. I am a very happy person for the most part. If I’m alone, I know how to be happy with myself. If I’m with others, I know how to be happy with them.
I do wholeheartedly believe in unconditional love…I give it everyday to my children. I get it every day from God. And I’m looking forward to one day having a relationship where I can love a partner unconditionally.
Take care, friend.
August 22nd, 2005 at 7:13 pm
hey girl, a rose by any other name would still smell sweet!
August 22nd, 2005 at 8:26 pm
I will love unconditionally, on one condition - that I am not loved unconditionally; in that I must love unconditionally.
August 22nd, 2005 at 9:29 pm
Just stopping by. You have a beautiful blog!
August 22nd, 2005 at 11:14 pm
Loving unconditionally means total surrender, to love another person as he/she is, not trying to change or expecting him/her to change. That is what love is. That is my definition of love. Yes, great.
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August 23rd, 2005 at 1:53 am
Some good thoughts here, Vicki! I enjoy the way you change your layouts, too.
August 23rd, 2005 at 5:02 am
Good post, again. I understand this now, because I have been in a relationship where it didn’t work at all that way.
I think if you love unconditionally, it also opens the way to absolute trust. Because you know that you trust the other person in his decisions and his possible mistakes, and that you don’t have to fear anything. If you are walking in the same direction anyway, the “no strings attached” gets a whole different meaning.
August 23rd, 2005 at 5:18 am
Beautiful thoughts beautifully written
August 23rd, 2005 at 6:28 am
Beautiful Victoria!
August 23rd, 2005 at 7:05 am
Spoken by one with so much to give! You’re an amazing lady, and we’re all the better for it.
August 23rd, 2005 at 7:20 am
I used to tell my children, “No matter what, I love you, but I don’t always have to like you or the things you do.”
August 23rd, 2005 at 7:44 am
It does not and cannot exist within man or woman on this earth. There is only ONE who can love unconditionally. We have too many things in our lives that place conditions on things even when we say they don’t. But it is a nice concept.
August 23rd, 2005 at 7:45 am
Loving unconditionally is always my intent, but when I do let my guard down I have been hurt. But hurting is part of life and love. If you love someone unconditionally you usually trust them completely and having the trust shaken or broken it’s sometimes hard to rebuild. Forgiveness is part of unconditional love too.
You are such an extraordinary lady!!! Beautifully written and said!! *LOVE & HUGS*
August 23rd, 2005 at 7:47 am
(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))
-G
August 23rd, 2005 at 8:21 am
Oh my Soul Lady, what a beautiful post! Giving love to someone without strings attached is the ultimate kind of love. I have always believed that when people share love, it is God’s love and His gift to us that we are really sharing. Knowing that, it makes it even easier to be careful how we “treat” that love, and easier to give more of it out. Have a wonderful day Vickie, and thanks for this!
August 23rd, 2005 at 10:57 am
Wise, wise, wise words. And thank you for your kindness as well.
August 23rd, 2005 at 6:24 pm
Wow, what a profound and beautiful posting. I am struggling with a relationship issue right now, and have been consumed with fear in the past couple of days. And just when I need something to help me clarify my thoughts and feelings, I stumble across your post!!
Thank you. This is a beautiful site, and my first visit today. I have a new way to view this wonderful person that has been set forth in my path. Thanks.
August 24th, 2005 at 2:31 pm
The thing is one doesn’t always feel complete because energies leave and one doesn’t have the resources to give that perfect unconditional love. But waiting it out, the faith of permanence returns.
Both people are in flux. Think of it like the Footprints poem. Love and trust is opening up to joy but at the same time to hurt. Letting yourself rest from trying to love and it comes like a bubbling spring. (Just make sure the spring isn’t contaminated but gentle and fresh.) Which comes back to the sense of being self-reliant, self-complete, falling into step with someone along a life path, neither trying to command the other’s decisions.