Women Acceptance | Filed under General
Today I have something near and dear to me to bring to your attention for a few different reasons. This was written and came from a guy right here in my home state of Georgia and you will get a chance to compare his thoughts on Women to one of my favorite blogger’s thoughts. So here without anything to interrupt let me bring to you just one article from a book written by Ed Williams
Big, Fine Women
by Ed WilliamsSometimes those of us of the male persuasion don’t like to admit things that we hold deep inside for fear that we’ll be made fun of. All of you men out there know exactly what I mean — if we admit we like to burp loudly, we’re accused of being savages; therefore, we can never admit to it. That also goes for a lot of other things that we like to do; but, if I write about any of them here, this column will never be published. So don’t even think about asking me what they are. It really is a shame, you know, not being able to admit this stuff, cause we men will always be men.
Well, despite all that, it’s time we men proudly step up to the plate and admit to something. Something that all of us hold near and dear to our hearts. Something that makes us men, something that’s an inner part of our essence, and something that makes the world go around. And that something, ladies and gentlemen, is:
We love women who have a little meat on their bones.
God, there’s nothing better. A mature woman, a lady who’s lived a little, and one who has nice, full curves just makes the world go around. And that’s not just me talkin’, either. Let’s face it, most of us men feel this way. We want to hold a woman who feels ’soft, one who sort of melts into you. And if she’s like that and also happens to be a good smoocher, well, she’s worth her weight in gold and then some. She’s a prime woman, a seasoned fine wine of a female, and she’ll only get better with age.
Y’all think I’m off base on this? Just out there shooing flies in Alaska? Well then, please show me how many spinsters there are out there who are sassy and curvy? Not one. Nada. El zilcho. Let’s face it, all the old maids that I know are skinnier than racetrack dogs on diets, and that’s being nice about it. When you get right down to it, a thin woman is pretty much like a small heater — very little warmth comes out and lots of maintenance is required. Need I say more?
It should be easy for you ladies to understand why we men feel this way. If you take a full figured woman into a lingerie store, all the clerks will nod and smile at you, acknowledging the fact that you’re one lucky man. She’s also the best movie companion that you can ever have because you’ll feel all sexy and warm sitting next to her, and you never have to worry that she won’t enjoy some popcorn because it has too many fat grams. She’s a great asset at a business dinner as she’s typically quite smart and a great conversationalist, so she’ll mingle well with all the attendees. When you get right down to it, she’s a real woman, the best thing goin, and all the make-up and silicone in the world are pale substitutes for her awesome, natural gifts. She’s an ace, pure and simple.
So, all you ladies out there, the next time you see some Paris fashion show on TV that features a bunch of malnourished waifs who don’t even make ripples in their clothes, just know that maybe two percent of the male population finds them attractive, and that two percent probably owns a complete set of Richard Simmons work-out tapes. That’s just the truth of it, consequences or non-sequences.
Most of us men enjoy a nice, attractive woman of substance, the kind that we love so much that we deliberately take her to Italian or Mexican restaurants just so that we can make sure that she stays the woman she is.
Just remember that less is not always better, unless you’re a visiting relative or someone pushing a pyramid-marketing scheme involving insurance, cosmetics, or timeshare condominium sales.
Now one of my favorite bloggers is Xavierism and this is what he recently had to say in a post
There is a musical diva that I adore not only for her music but for her depth of spirituality…Toni Childs. She has a beautiful and haunting voice. On her site, you can listen to unfinished song clips of her latest tracks, Open The Window and Bourbon. It must be noted that Childs had been suffering from Graves’ disease. Besides finishing her latest album, She is currently writing a book, Living Beauty: The Alchemy of Acceptance. She writes in a passage: Beauty is. It is not something you can acquire, put on or decorate yourself with and suddenly it is there. It is internal, and therefore eternal. It is something every living thing was born with. Beauty is an essence, it radiates, it has warmth, and a power that is quantum — the total of who we truly are.
If possible, I would like each woman on my list to take a moment and read a part of what Childs had to write concerning the concepts of beauty and power of being a woman. It’s quite powerful! I’m certain that she would appreciate any feedback.
I invite each of you to you to reflect and share with us on the concept of beauty of women. What is it? Where does it reside ? Does size matter? Is beauty external or internal? Who owns beauty? I invite you to open up your heart to meet your own beauty. Beauty is a door to be opened. Please open the door: for it has been held prisoner long enough. I am what Ed talked about in his article a Big Fine Woman and I think of myself as a Big Beautiful Woman beginning several years ago when I did find I loved myself and decided I was beautiful. Come on share your thoughts with me. I would especially like to know your thoughts if you are male female if you agree or disagree, please speak up.
I will be making changes to my blogroll in the next few weeks as it has grown to much for me to visit, comment, and participate in /at as I did in the beginning. I would like to make certain that I continue to visit those who visit here but so many just lurk. I do not follow my stats and even when I try it does not given me adequate information. So please give me a shout if you visit so I know. Thank you and remember Life Is Simply Good.
August 20th, 2005 at 8:00 pm
Shout!
August 20th, 2005 at 8:13 pm
Wow Vickie, great post!!! Not surprising either, since it came from my Soul Lady and we both feel the same about so many things.
I am petite in that I am 5′2″ and was slim all my life until I hit the Big M. (menopause, for anyone who hasn’t been there yet or if you’re male) I have been chubby now for about 6 years. It didn’t take long to gain the extra weight once I hit this awesome (and sometimes terrifying) female Right Of Passage, but it HAS taken some time for my mentality and emotions to grow into what is now me. I have suddenly become more comfortable with it, even though for comfort sake I wouldn’t mind losing a few pounds. However, I believe what has made me more accepting of the “rounder” me has a lot to do with how I love the more spiritually and emotionally maturity I now possess in my middle years. (I am 53) And I never lost my perkiness and sassiness, I never will. It’s my personality.
I have yet to hear a male say he prefers skinny women, although I know there are some out there who do. Most men I know of know of, prefer women with “some meat and soft curves” on them. Like me, perhaps? And I can understand that easily, because I am not as attracted to skinny men either!
I of course read the link that my dear friend Xavier posted about Beauty and Women, and it was wonderful! I got a lot out of it.
Oh how I enjoyed this post Vickie, thank you for sharing this! I too am a “Big Fine Woman”!
August 20th, 2005 at 8:39 pm
I believe people have a size that is them. It’s not the perpetual diet size and it’s not cinnamin roll at day size. And it’s especially true once you race past 40. If you are reasonably active, and you eat and drink with some moderation, then you should be satisfied with your size. Like that great philosopher P.E. Sailor once said: “I yam what I yam”. Given that, and that you can be comfortable with it, and that comfort translates to a little confidence and personality; I’m betting you can be popular with most and quite attractive to others. And can be down right sexy if you wish.
August 20th, 2005 at 9:08 pm
How do you always do that vicki? How do you always always know just exactly what to post to bring hope and realization. Being a big woman I often feel that my beauty is hidden to most people. That they don’t see the curves, the warmth, the heart. I am beautiful and I know it. I had no clue that any one out there appreciated the kind of beauty that is mine. Thank you so much for posting this my soul sister. I don’t know how it is that I get through a day with out reading your blog.
I wanted to let you know that I am taking a break. I have alot going on and won’t be around too much for a few days or a few weeks. Gotta lot a thinkin to do and such. As always I love you bunches and send you positive loving energy.
D
August 20th, 2005 at 9:56 pm
Loved it Victoria. My love is not starved race track dog, and I wouldn’t trade her for none o’ them lil will o’wisps… I like to have somethin’ to cuddle, dag gone it!
August 21st, 2005 at 5:44 am
Mr. Williams knows what he is talking about!!!!!!
August 21st, 2005 at 8:26 am
Love the blog - came over here from Walker’s site.
Funny, I just posted (not on blogspot, but on my msn space) about perception of body/mind - weight and attitudes.
Anyway, love the blog here.
August 21st, 2005 at 8:57 am
Thank you for sharing that. I think the beauty resides inside, as we see ourselves, our strengths, weaknesses, and how we see the beauty in others. A person can be beautiful on the outside but without the inner beauty, it makes the other ugly.
Take care of your dear self! Love you! *HUGS*
August 21st, 2005 at 11:54 am
I was raised with those ideas already instilled in me. I don’t see the big deal. If a person doesn’t know themselves, them they don’t know what makes them truly happy. I have found that most people who have life threating situations know what makes them happy. It sure is not skinny or a self saturated person.
August 21st, 2005 at 4:24 pm
I have never set a standard for the wpmen I want to be with……ok maybe just two.
One, it has to be a woman and not a guy dressed as a woman.
Two, she was to smile.
I do prefere bigger women because they don’t break as easily, I am a big guy at 275 pounds. I could kill a 105 pound woman and have come close.
But for the most part I look at the person and how they are. I judge by our life style and our likes and dislikes.
Sex is one of the last things when I’m looking for a mate.
Sex is the first thing I look for when I’m looking for a lay…. and thats it’s a female of course. You would have to find my post to understand that last part.
I don’t know who made the satandard for what women should look like and what men should look like but they were wrong.
Big and beautiful is better than skinny and broken.
Have a nice day
August 21st, 2005 at 9:52 pm
Agree with Karen here. Great post as usual. Thanks for bringing this up.
August 22nd, 2005 at 1:11 am
Hi, I’m here and not just “lurking”. I liked what he said about the women with figures. I’ve heard that before a couple of times (only), but never as eloquently.
August 22nd, 2005 at 4:33 am
I think some woman don’t like themselves because they want to be able to identify with the woman they see in TV-magazines or commercials and the success that is ascribed to them. It’s probably not easy to overcome this, because it has to do with the self-image. Nobody has told them to feel that way, nor did anybody tell them they were too round, but the subtle ways, in which such a self-image comes about, require change at a deep level, before they might be able to love themselves again as they are. No matter how people look, isn’t it beautiful when you can look into their souls, when you look them in the eyes?
August 22nd, 2005 at 7:41 am
Okay so I identify with this post. I do NOT like stick skinny models at all. Give me some “meat” for the lack of a better term.
August 22nd, 2005 at 9:55 am
I LOVE Toni Childs and agree that everyone should reflect upon some, if not all, that she has written. The Woman’s Boat is one of my favorite CDs.
On the subject of beauty…this is actually something I have been reflecting upon lately. I was large before I got pregnant, but now I feel enormous. I had been going to Weight Watchers when I got pregnant with this baby and intend to go back. I want to be thinner because being bigger is causing me some health issues and I want to be around to be an active mother to my children. But as far as appearances go, I find that losing weight often reflects upon the personalities of others than it does with our own self. Being big often makes one at least partially invisible. When you begin shedding pounds, others begin to notice and may think that you’re more beautiful. But that’s so much about them and little to do with you. It’s interesting to witness…other people changing. You can really see the depth of those around you when that happens.
August 22nd, 2005 at 12:27 pm
Blogging again, but this time with purpose.
http://strive4better.blogspot.com/
August 22nd, 2005 at 5:47 pm
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes…and the beauty from within should always be allowed to shine and be seen first.
I remember reading bits of Ed William’s book. I look forward for Toni’s book to be out. It’s a book that will entertain my soul because I can relate to so much of this since most of my dearest friends are women. Their souls and spirits shine through…it’s what I adore about them.
Wonderful post. Continue to share the beauty from within yourself…
August 24th, 2005 at 2:35 pm
Beauty in men or in women are about balance. It is a grace at putting someone else at ease, of being comfortable in one’s own skin with one’s own choices with no trace of vice (belligerance, hautiness, ridicule or other uglies.) It is a curiosity, caring and energy to live that makes the eyes light, the skin glow and gives a lightness of movement of limbs and animation to face. That’s beauty to me.