Have you ever stopped to think, finding your soulmate takes some work well it does. In order to meet your soulmate, you have to be willing to open up your soul. This can be very scary stuff. Some of us don’t even know where our soul resides and what it may be up to. Your soul is where you keep your deepest needs, feelings, hurts and desires. It’s probably the part of you which is most ferociously defended and it very likely is the most vulnerable part of you. The defenses that we may use to protect this and the masks we wear to hide it away are aspects of ego. In order to open up the soul, we have to stop defending and protecting it.

It can be very scary to contemplate this. Opening the soul means that we speak the truth of who we are, what we may fear and what we deeply care for to a world which isn’t known for it’s compassion in these areas. If we felt that we lived in a compassionate world, there would be no need to hide from it, now would there? Opening the soul requires courage, enough so that we’re willing to endure ridicule or disbelief in our most tender spots. Luckily the soul is a whole lot tougher than we give it credit for being. Also very fortunately, when we come from the soul without defensiveness, most people instinctively recognize and honor our actions.

This may be hard to believe. A major part of the reason we defend the soul in such a dedicated fashion is our memory of having been hurt in the past. Why should it be any different now? The difference is the conscious choice to align one’s loyalties to the soul. When we know that rejection may occur, but are honoring the needs of soul regardless of this, there is power. The power is a spiritual, power of Truth. This power is a protective force which ensures that no matter what else occurs, soul growth has happened and we are better for it.

The fact remains that this opening is necessary if we wish to meet a soulmate and build trust in relationships. There seems to be significant difficulty in hooking up with and sometimes even perceiving a soul mate unless we drop these defenses. It makes sense metaphysically, since the Universe draws to us that which we most deeply need. If we’re covering up that need with masks or defenses, there is no way that what we really need can come to us. We are actively inhibiting it.

In order to experience something as extraordinary as a soulmate connection, one has to take extraordinary risks. In this case the risk is the sacrifice of ego for the potential reward of a deeply fulfilling relationship with someone who knows you fully and loves you just as you are. A soul mate.

But when I say soulmate it bring up the terminology. For the sake of simplicity I speak only of “soulmate” and “soul connection”. Many people are quite convinced that they’ve met their soulmate but… When the “but” concerns mutuality of experience, it’s not a soulmate. I want to be very clear on this. When only one person in the relationship is interested and/or willing to pursue the relationship, it is “only” a soul connection and not a soulmate. They are both very special occurrences.

Soulmates have agreements established in the past to come together and share evolutionary growth. When the connection is made, it is very difficult for either party to resist, no matter what the circumstances may be and there is a real desire for a long term relationship of some type. My advice, is a soul connection seems to also be important, but in a different way. In this instance, there is a recognition through one’s soul of the other person. This recognition can be startling and sometimes quite impactive. However, pursuing a relationship tends to be fraught with difficulties of every sort imaginable. Usually the biggest difficulty of a soulmate relationship is the sheer terror which can occur from the intensity and mutuality of the experience. That calms down after awhile.

These connections can even be severed when necessary. For example…The relationship was based on a soul connection which had a finite purpose, such as learning to express love.

The soulmates (both of them) have decided that the evolutionary acceleration is too much to take and consciously choose to “put the brakes on”. If allowed to halt for too long, personality issues become greater than soul issues and the relationship must wait until another lifetime.

Severing a soul connection can be a very difficult task. This is due to the fact there is a soul “indebtedness” between the two individuals. In order to release or get released from such a bond requires a powerful will to do so. This is not the will to escape, but the will to finalize or achieve closure. I’ve been in several different situations where people felt trapped in such a situation and in each case it required that the individual be willing to call upon all their inner resources to fully let go. Yes some of these situations did invove me. And it truly is “letting go”, not getting the other to let go, no matter how much it may seem that way. Sometimes these debts include being able to forgive a debt in it’s entirety, or to forgive oneself for having been in debt. One must be able to do this from the soul.

I have finished what I want to say here on soulmates and would like to thank each of you for being patient with me. Next week I have a few things on board that I hope you will enjoy and are also deep, thought reflecting as well but normal for what you often see here at times. This weekend will be lighter and maybe more fun but you never know what to find with me but one thing Life Is Simply Good.

SUDDEN LIGHT

I have been here before,
But when or how I cannot tell:
I know the grass beyond the door,
The sweet keen smell,
The sighing sound, the lights around the shore.

You have been mine before,–
How long ago I may not know:
But just when at that swallow’s soar
Your neck turn’d so,
Some veil did fall,–I knew it all of yore.

Has this been thus before?
And shall not thus time’s eddying flight
Still with our lives our love restore
In death’s despite,
And day and night yield one delight once more?

–DANTE GABRIEL ROSSETTI