Soulmates | Filed under General
Bloggers block do we have it, yes of course if writers can have it so can we. We are writers in our own rights and many are very good each a story to tell. The last several days I have been suffering with bloggers block or maybe it is the heat has been getting to me in its own way but I have had nothing to say here. Usually I will have several articles in reserve but I am fresh out as I have nothing on hand. Today while talking on the phone with a friend, it came to me that I should do a few articles on love and soulmates.
My soulmate and I are linked together and our essential nature is such that we compliment each other. What one lacks, the other tends to bring out in them, and vice versa. When we are together, we expedite each other’s soul growth simply by being ourselves.
What makes finding a soulmate difficult is the fact that working on one’s soul involves giving the ego a back seat. This means a willingness to be wrong, letting go of fondly held pre-conceived ideas and being able to put the needs of one’s soul ahead of cultural requirements. This is just what happens before a soul mate can enter the picture. It seems that one has to accept love based simply on who you are, not what you do, how you think or what you look like (or any of the myriad other things we feel we must do/have to be loved). After that has been accomplished it seems to be necessary to be able to perceive the lovability in everyone, no matter what.
Encountering one’s soulmate probably varies in nature from one person to another, but the situation gets clear enough very quickly. I’ve often heard that the individual is not one’s usual “type” and this was my experience. There may be silly reasons to not get involved with this person.
Odd urges or intuitions may come up. I barely knew this person, in a stifling work situation, but kept having the urge to hug him like he was my best friend. Finally, there’s a synchronicity to the encounters. Situations may keep coming up which throw you together. It’s almost as if the Universe conspires to ensure that you get a really good look at each other and orchestrates way for finding your soulmate.
Making a life with a soul mate requires big steps beyond egoic needs. I’ve found that it’s easiest if one assumes that you’re in it for the duration and that anything which comes up, is for the Higher Good of both of you. No matter what “roles” either of you may be accustomed to assuming in a relationship, they may need to be changed. If you’re used to being passive, get ready to take charge. If you’re comfortable being a teacher, learn to be a student.
Obviously this is a very abridged version of the nature of a soul mate relationship. In my opinion the difficulty in bringing your soul mate into your life is that at a subconscious level, we realize the ego sacrifices which must be made and avoid them. We may hear a lot about how wonderful such a relationship can be, and I believe that this can’t be overstated. It’s incredible, marvelous, wonderful and heavenly. If we want to find our soulmates, the work on Self must be done.
Famous Quotes:
“Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved. ”
–William Jennings Bryan
Now next time here at Always Victoria where at times I soar alone but Life Is Simply Good for I have a soulmate who loves me you will find a post on If there is a problem with finding one’s soulmate, it’s not the soulmate’s problem, it’s our own.
Come on talk to me, speak up and don’t leave me wondering your thoughts on this. I know manyof you who will have some so share them, please.
July 27th, 2005 at 7:54 pm
I know of what you speak. My life has been incredibly blessed by this woman who is truly the foundation of everything I may have become, the reason for any that I might have achieved, the reason for my life. We are absolutely soul mates and you flat nailed it. Thank you kindly.
July 27th, 2005 at 7:56 pm
Wow, what a great post! I’ve experienced my soul mate in this lifetime and it is just as you describe…….right down to how the Universe keeps throwing you together until you give in! :lol::heart:
July 27th, 2005 at 8:49 pm
I couldn’t agree more with your most basic point. I think I have a soulmate out there somewhere. My task is to work on myself so I’ll be ready for her when she comes along.
July 27th, 2005 at 8:52 pm
I think I didn’t work on “self” enough, obviously! I’m very happy for those who really do find their soul mate, and that was a great post Ms. Vickie!
July 27th, 2005 at 9:04 pm
there are connections between all of us, some just harmonize more. its beautiful when you realise this is the one.
i don’t know if i’ve found mine.. all i know i feel complete with her, it goes beyond explanation.
and in such cases, the ego rarely exists, the understanding goes beyond emotion.
July 27th, 2005 at 9:11 pm
I have found my soulmate. I could not be more happier. This is the happiest I have been in years !!
Great post, Vickie !!
Life is Simply Good !
July 27th, 2005 at 10:53 pm
Finding a soulmate is good luck. Those who find it live happily ever after and those who dont have to compromise, compromise, compromise.
Some time I confess this to myself: Is this my fault that I have found the result of myprayers but not what I prayed for. Is this?
July 28th, 2005 at 12:56 am
Very good post.
Your soul mate is not suppose to be like you.
It’s the other half of you that joins to make one.
Both halves are suppose to be different so you can become the whole. I got a greek myth on this, hmm
I have found mine.
Have a nice day.
July 28th, 2005 at 5:20 am
Your bloggers block didn’t prevent you from writing a very nice post. It made me realize also that it would not have been a good idea to try to go on. There was so much missing. In fact we were very much alike, and thus also shared the same flaws, which exacerbated each other to detrimental effects to both of us.
“L’amour est la promotion de l’autre”, my mother used to say. Love is the promotion of the other one. Instead there was a competitive element to our relationship. And the different cultural backgrounds we were coming from became a matter of what was better rather than of enrichment.
Question: Did you fall in love with your soul mate?
July 28th, 2005 at 5:47 am
I have been lucky enough to find my soulmate too
July 28th, 2005 at 5:50 am
Yesterday, I wrote a post on soul mates, more of a restrospective post on the subject.
It is still something I am thinking on, and you gave me more to think on.
July 28th, 2005 at 7:04 am
Soulmates are truly precious and don’t come along every day. There’s a deep connection which no one can explain. I think if you leave yourself open you will find your soulmate(s), but I do believe there is a time and place for everything, including soulmates.
*HUGS & LOVE*
July 28th, 2005 at 7:14 am
Do I have a soulmate - I would like to think so but I have never met her in person and no it is not my wife.
July 28th, 2005 at 8:11 am
I Married mine. Another aspect of this is that it made my inlaws our best friends.
July 28th, 2005 at 9:03 am
I have met my soul mate and was foolish enough to let him pass through my life. I do not regret the time we spent, however I miss him horribly.
I love my husband, he is my best friend, my partner and the father of our wonderful child. While I will always miss my soul mate, i’m quite content with the wonderful man I do have in my life now.
Thank you for such a wonderfully insightful passage.
July 28th, 2005 at 9:57 am
It’s funny that you wrote about this…I talked to another friend the night before last about soulmates. I know that I haven’t met mine although I did have someone tell me he was mine…but then, wouldn’t I have already known that in myself? And of course, he wasn’t.
I do believe soulmates exist…I just don’t know if I would recognize mine if he did come along. But if it’s meant to be with someone it will be. In the meantime, I’m enjoying cultivating new friendships!