Feelings | Filed under General
Sometimes things don’t go as we hope but that as never kept me down for long.
For most of us, when we think about being our “best” selves, there is a sense of
depth, breadth and richness. We see ourselves, in the future–calm, collected, wise,
joyful, experiencing all the top-shelf positive emotions.
I believe that picture of life is definitely the goal of living our best life; however it can be a misleading picture. As a rule, when we visualize ourselves in that moment of living our best life, it’s important to remember that’s exactly what it is — a moment. It’s precisely the same as when we capture a memory of a wonderful trip or vacation. We tend to isolate a moment that best represents the feeling we tie to the memory of that trip. It rarely means that you felt that feeling for every single moment.
Not only is life like that - a whole gamut of emotions, but it’s SUPPOSED to be like that! In fact, living our best life is about experiencing the full joy of being human, and that is not always joyful. So how do we reconcile feeling all those negative emotions with living our “best” life? The secret to living our best human life is to give ourselves permission to feel everything, but to not get stuck in the negative emotions. It really is that simple!
Every single feeling you feel is valid and legitimate. It may not always be “appropriate,” but the fact remains that you are feeling it, and that makes it legal. We often do more harm by trying to “not feel” negative emotions than by allowing them out.
Many times we look at things as if we were seeing, hearing or feeling them for the first or maybe the last time. Imagine if that were the case, everything would be filled with a very special feeling. Speaking of feelings here is something I would like to share with you that I wrote .
Feelings—Good or Bad
Sometimes a feeling gets to me
All I want to do is cry
Yet I don’t want to hold what I feel inside.
Days, weeks and even months passes by
I don’t know if I can hold it any longer
Am I ready to let this feeling go?
If I do will I become stronger?
I must gain the strength to be happy
To live my life so it is Simply Good
No more living in a dark damp basement
So tears fall down from my eyes so easy
Yes my heart and soul tells me to stand tall
Sometimes I feel like I should and then
Other times I feel that I shouldn’t at all
I have been in a dark damp basement filled with chaos
I know where to go but I was so lost
Do I have the strength to be strong?
Is this is the place where I belong?
Is it because this is what I fear?
The feeling that made me break down in tears?
Yes I have that internal strength
I no longer need to escape to that dark damp basement
I no longer fear for I now know
My Life Is Simply Good
Feelings will come and feelings will go
I will break down in tears
I will always be standing tall and strong
for My Life Is Simply Good.
Victoria Smith
July 9, 2005
July 9th, 2005 at 5:29 pm
Wonderful post as always, Victoria! In the grand scheme of things, life is truly beautiful. With faith and hope, we’ll realize that life is simply good! Just as it’s intended to be…so with that, enjoy the moments! Continue to inspire our lives!
KEEP THE FAITH!
July 9th, 2005 at 6:24 pm
Ah, and so it is I who follow my good friend Xavier into your comments, Vickie! Wonderful post ~ and Xavier said it all, really. There cannot be light without dark and sun without rain, and so also, goes our emotional life. We must FEEL what we are feeling….and accept those feelings, before we can validate them, and then move on to where we need to go with them. During an extremely devastating time in my life, I accepted my pain and knew that I had to walk through that forest, there was no other way out to the light again. But, rather than “dwell” on them, I simply felt them and shed tears as I needed to, in order to heal; but I kept my faith that once I walked through all of it, I would once again be in the light. And so it was. You’re right Vickie, all our emotions are valid to us for whatever reason ~ we just need to deal with them rather than store them away to fester. Keep the faith that all is as it should be, and in that way, it is easier to accept the bad along with the good without dwelling or drowning in the difficult emotions. Wonderful post! Thank you for sharing.
July 9th, 2005 at 7:39 pm
*wipe tears* your poem is beautiful, Vickie !! Your post was excellent. Life is Simply Good !!
*HUGS*
July 10th, 2005 at 2:11 am
Well… at least it’s good to know that my feelings about your site tonight are valid….
I have spent half the night trying to find a decent template for my wife’s blog… and then I show up here and see that you are hogging them all and have a site that is just beautiful…. that’s just frustrating! lol
July 10th, 2005 at 9:30 pm
Although there are ups and downs in life, I try not to get too down on myself or overzealous when things are going my way. I try to look at the joy of life in everything, although sometimes I exaggerate for comedic effect.
July 10th, 2005 at 10:31 pm
Lesson of life. Only some time it becomes difficult to look at life this way, this helps, this helps, though.
July 10th, 2005 at 10:57 pm
Beautiful as always, as are you. You write from the heart and capture our hearts. life is simply good. No matter what is happening. It cannot be anything but good as it is given to use by Him. What we do with it after that, is up to us.
July 11th, 2005 at 5:21 am
Were it not for the valleys, how then would we appreciate the peaks?
July 11th, 2005 at 5:53 am
I wish it were as simple as that. Great post and I got a lot out of it.
P.S. LOVE the car.
July 11th, 2005 at 9:09 am
I’ve really enjoyed coming to know a little about you through your blog and the occasional poem you share with us. I also want you to know that my son asked me how you were doing. You are the ONLY blog person he has ever expressed an interest in.
Of course, I’m on his hit list but then I stay there except when the car or allowance is involved.
And you know…I just may have to take you up on that private email thing…it works both ways…if YOU ever need to talk.
July 11th, 2005 at 10:10 am
we own our feelings. . . i’ve missed you. xxxxxxx’s
July 11th, 2005 at 11:21 am
Life has been a constant growth experience for me. I’ve discovered strength I hoped I would have; and continue to deal with those weaknesses that I must battle. And how has this constant awareness been possible. Simple. The love of my life. The stairway to my heaven. The angel that was cast before me 22 years ago. I couldn’t have ever become whatever man I am if she hadn’t entered my life. I can’t say my life is good, but I’ve done good in the life I live. And I take some pride in that.
July 11th, 2005 at 12:31 pm
I agree that there is nothing wrong with any feeling per se. And that we need to look at our feelings honesty.
The trouble can come, I think, when we go from acknowledging a feeling, especially an unhappy one, to dwelling on it - repeating it over and over to ourselves, whatever it is that’s making us unhappy.
July 11th, 2005 at 1:11 pm
Every time Timmy gets to whomping on me, I come over here, and it’s not long before I too say..Life Is Simply Good! Thanks for that.
July 11th, 2005 at 1:57 pm
Just wanted to say thank you for the note. You mean a great deal to me, Victoria! Have a great week…filled with love, love, and more love!
xoxoxoxo
July 11th, 2005 at 5:53 pm
Victoria, could you email me? I can’t figure out your email address.
Thanks.
July 11th, 2005 at 7:43 pm
Your poem says it all. You have such a wonderful talent for saying exactly what people need to hear.
God bless and keep you strong in your convictions.