Simply Terri | Filed under General
We are all familiar with the ongoing saga of the Terri Schaivo case down in Florida, as a Registered Nurse who also suffers from Multiple Sclerosis I am very interested in this case. We all have our opinions and the one this is my opinion and mine only it is something I have often discussed with many it centers around my thought process of what is life if you have quantity but no quality of life as is the case of Terri. For myself, I do not want quantity without quality but I have not taken that major all important step to make certain my wishes will be honored. My husband knows this as does my mother, my sister, other family members and friends but that is not enough to possibly prevent me from ending in a similar position.
I will be making certain I have a living will completed very soon for peace of mind for myself as well as for my family. We will never know Terri’s real wish and that is the tragedy here so for her I hope and pray she will soon be dancing above us looking on smiling. Why don’t we all make certain her death is not for naught and each of us does not let what happened to her happen to us or to one of our loved one. Please do this by getting your living will done it matters not what your wishes are but please spell them out.
So Terri this is far you…..
“When it comes time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song, and die like a hero going home.”
Tecumseh
Shawnee Indian Chief
When I die if you need to weep
Cry for your brother or sister
Walking the street beside you
And when you need me put your arms around anyone
And give them what you need to give me.
I want to leave you something
Something better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I’ve known or loved
And if you cannot give me away
At least let me live in your eyes and not on your mind.
You can love me most by letting hands touch hands
By letting bodies touch bodies
And by letting go of children that need to be free.
Love doesn’t die, people do
So when all that’s left of me is love
Give me away.
Now for Terri we must each do our job and get our paperwork in order. Please make any comment for I do not judge others for their opinions and I have even been educated and yes I do stop, listen, read and value your thoughts.
March 25th, 2005 at 11:07 pm
Bless you tonight, sweetheart.
Poor Terri, I think it is all over, except for the dying. I hope she is released soon from this world. Yes, remember to complete a living will. No family should ever be burdened with the heartache this family has had to endure. God bless & keep you close, Terri.
March 26th, 2005 at 2:50 am
Very cool, that whole situation is so sad.
Nice work.
March 26th, 2005 at 10:26 am
Death is of no concern to me. I deny it power in my life.
The only tragedy in it that I see is that some will die before they have ever truly lived.
If you truly love those who are close to you, make as many decisions about your life as you can to relieve them of the burden of guessing what you may have wanted.
Happy Easter.
March 26th, 2005 at 10:41 am
The lesson here really is about making your wishes known and LEGALLY binding. This is a horrible situation. I do not believe Mr.Schiavo really knows what her wishes were/are…I do believe he abused her. I do believe her parents cannot accept their daughter’s medical fate…it just is horrible. I pray for all the souls involved in the decision making.
March 26th, 2005 at 12:52 pm
Hey, Vicki! I just wanted to stop by and say hi and, again THANK YOU for being so incredibly wonderful!
-G
March 26th, 2005 at 12:58 pm
Whether you believe it is a merciful death or murder, you are correct that everyone should learn the lesson that Terri and her family were not able to - write out your wishes. My personal views on her situation are just that, personal, but I do think that all involved will get their just desserts when the time comes and truth is finally exposed.
Great post, sweetie.
March 26th, 2005 at 2:03 pm
Great post…very eloquent. I just wish the family could come together and make the best decision “for her”.
I’m her via Michele, Hello!
March 26th, 2005 at 7:24 pm
Vicki; I just purchased Suze Orman’s ‘Will and Trust Kit’ for the computer. It has a lot of forms, one of which is a living will, that you and your loved ones can use. The price was only fifteen dollars. also most hospitals have living will forms for the asking I know our local one does. With Terri’s case being so NOW, my thought is that a lot of people will be heading to their lawyers (at great cost) to take care of this forms when it is something we can deal with on our own. Love your journal.:smile:
Peace to all
March 26th, 2005 at 8:06 pm
I still don’t feel I know enough about the T.S. situation other than to say the biggest lesson is to have a Living Will and make sure anyone who would have the power to make any decision concerning your health knows in no uncertain terms what you desire for care.
Having said that, I hope your family has a wonderful holiday tomorrow and that Kristin is getting stronger every day.
March 26th, 2005 at 11:00 pm
Happy Easter! My wife and I are doing the same thing!
March 27th, 2005 at 3:13 am
A reminder for all of us. God Bless…….
March 27th, 2005 at 8:11 am
Happy Easter to Victoria and the Circle of Friends.
March 27th, 2005 at 8:13 am
Happy Easter to Victoria, and all in the Circle of Love. Enjoy a splendid day.
March 27th, 2005 at 8:30 am
We will be doing ours also!
March 27th, 2005 at 2:25 pm
Hi Victoria,
I finally added you to my favourites list (long overdue). This was a powerful and important post. I urge you and everyone to get a living will done. Be wary of those will kits; I had one, and it turned out the language made it binding only in a different province. I paid about 600 bucks to get three important documents done properly by a lawyer: last will and testament, living will, and power of attorney.
No one ever thinks they’ll end up in the terrible condition that Terri Schiavo did, at such a young age. We can all learn from her tragic circumstance, and see to it that no one has to guess at our wishes, or endure the agony that her loved ones are going through right now.
March 27th, 2005 at 8:31 pm
I find it interesting that almost everyone assumes that because they would prefer not to live by artificial means that everyone else feels that way as well. It’s impossible to say what Terri would want now. Which might be very different than what she may have wanted 15 years ago.
We don’t really do the quality of Terri’s life. If she is capable of cognitive thought who knows what she would say? Since she was raised as a devout Catholic, I do not believe she would choose death over life. Of course that’s only my opinion. And we all know about opinions don’t we?:lol:
March 29th, 2005 at 9:33 am
How sweet and yes it is true that we all need to think about these things, something I’ve thought about quite a bit actually, mostly just because of my line of work also and my dx of MS. My husband even said he wants to get things in writing. It’s such a sad world we live in today.
Blessings to you my friend.
